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I have removed some of the posts in one of the threads this evening. One or two thoughtful, long, posts were removed in the process due to the way the forums operate, and I am sorry to have lost them.

These message stay here as long as we keep the site up. It would be most appreciated if a post begins to degrade into personal insults, if you would take that to the private messages feature. We can all disagree, without being disagreeable. Remember, first and foremost, we have a common belief in the freedom of people to live plural marriage.

Sage
Done

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If the "I'm right and You're Wrong flame wars" continue I will delete more. I really HATE to do that, so it has probably gone on too long. Please keep in mind we do not have a full time moderator and we all donate our time and have "real" jobs.

Everyone is coming at this from different perspective and different experiences so no 2 (or 3 or 5) is going to be the same.

The lack of respect here is astounding from people who are supposed to have a common interest.

babe (not verified)
never will be "done"

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you can shut down the whole site, but you will never be done with people, who will always have their "problems". It's a matter of perspective. You can aim at making a pretty picture if you wish, or you can aim at serving others by providing a forum for their personal development.

discussions are always a process, and as long as we are "free" there will be feelings involved as well. Personally, I'd rather see the "flame wars" than have it all edited out to make a Sunday School manual of it. It might seem like an endless process with no progress, but the fact is almost all people do change,sometimes improve, their ideas when they involve themselves in discussions.

when it's your site, it's your choice how much of that process you allow.

you could throw a few of us into a padded room and lock the door. Probably nobody would die, and we'd come out all the better for having the experience.

some people can even marry complete strangers with an absolute faith in God and an absolute personal commitment to marriage, and once they are locked into that "padded room" they can make a heaven of it. If they only choose to do so, and are free to make that choice.

Frannie
"your house"

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I don't get you people, Sage had before asked you all to respect each other, and stop the arguing, She then stated that she deleted some of the posts as they were too argumentative. Yet you all still kept arguing. I even asked you all to stop as it's getting out of hand,but some of you kept it up. Now Sage is ONCE again asking you all to stop, or she will again delete some posts if the arguing continues. Do you people not understand that you are making the site look bad to the new members. Its no wonder new members do not stay long, as they probably think this is not a good site to meet people on and have "CALM" conversations. Sage is an administrator, and she can and will do as she seems fit to keep this site a good site, without all the damn fighting. SO will you people please just drop the topic, its been "BEAT TO DEATH" enough.

Babe, I hate to say it, but you came off really rude to Sage In reply to her last post. That was uncalled for IMHO. Basically you were saying you do not give a damn what Sage says. WOW I have seen people banned from the chat and site for that.

Anyway, people I do not see why you have to be asked so many times to STOP. Have some respect for others and the site. Frankly, to me you all are acting like small children throwing tantrums. What do you do when your children do that. You put them in timeout and tell them to "STOP". I FEEL LIKE I AM SCOLDING THE CHILDREN THAT I HAD IN MY DAYCARE AGAIN. People act your age.

OK you can all jump down my throat now. LOL

Here to talk to friends. I am pro-poly, but am not seeking.

FamilyLife
Your house, your rules, I'm

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Your house, your rules, I'm good with that. :-) I will endevour to be less reactionary, and, as I've PM'd in the past, feel free to send me a private message if I step out of bounds. I'd rather that then a thread get flat out deleted. My goal is not to be disrespectful.

Indiana_Couple
IF you don't like

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The way sage and family run this site, or the people that post on the forums here. There is a site for sale you could run it your own way. NOW this is not intended for any one person so please don not take it personal. I post very little on these forums and the arguments and peoples personal beliefs are the reason. I was told how wrong we are for the way we chose to live our lives by a couple of people on here a long time ago. had to remove some wording from our profile to get certain people to stop sending us Horrible hate messages because of certain things we felt it important to let prospective ladies know about us up front. Really getting tired of all the arguments on this thread. OK done with my rant now, BTW the site for sale is sisterwives.net Just incase someone is interested in owning a poly site.

Sage
Mmmm Goodness No

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No, we are not closing the site however, the flame wars will stop.

We can disagree without being disagreeable.

If we had time to babysit the site all day, we still would not.

It is, indeed, our house and much like our living room. As an old friend once said "you can either play nice or we will fold you up in the sleeper sofa"

It needs to stop - the I am right, you are wrong thing going on.

As a side note - I knew my husband three days before we were married. Crazy? I think not. It has been 31 years and a boat load of blessings.

Cheers!

Indiana_Couple
Sorry Sage

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I was not talking about this site. Sisterwives. net is the one that is up for sale, Just saying if people don't like the way you run this one, Maybe they should buy that one. sorry for the misunderstanding

Sage
Ah got it

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Was trying to read messages in-between clients and phone calls today. Oops.

Sage
More Gone

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Sorry for any good posts deleted today but to jump on on new member thread is inexcusable. If one comment is deleted all comments in response to it are also deleted.