Looking for Bi Sister Wife in the Pacific North West USA.

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mrmrsr
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Looking for Bi Sister Wife in the Pacific North West USA.

We are a happy, healthy family looking for our lady. She must be Bi, and attracted to women. We love to workout on a regular basis, weights, CrossFit, Mud Runs, etc. Active lady, or beginning active lady is optimal. Kids at home or part time is ok! No drama though. We are a quiet family not looking to take in any problems. We have kids, so you must like kids. We have non shedding dogs, no allergy issues there! Our lady must have lots of energy and be spunky, bitchy, straight forward, caring, not afraid of blunt honesty, and willing to communicate. How are we supposed to get to know you if you don't communicate? We are a stable family, own our home, married for years. Just looking to share what we have built with the right lady. Just really looking for someone that is real, wants REAL love, REAL relationships with 2 people. . Our ideal match has to like women, obviously. Has to like to be active, or willing to start right away. We spend many hours a week at the gym, we do CrossFit in our small community. We would love someone that we could go workout with, or spend time at home. Prefer feminine looking ladies who are not turned off by tattoos and piercings. We understand most ladies on dating sites are independent and work hard, but we would still like someone who is willing to communicate often. We are Not religious, we are not looking for anyone who has a large commitment to a church.

Isabella
Another honest opinion

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if you are looking at personal ads, you should be looking to change up your life and be willing to try/live somewhere new.

Ermmm, that can go both ways you know?  Why is she obligated to come to you just because she is interested, why don't YOU try to live somewhere new?  Or are you two the only valid people here and she needs to be an extension of your wills and desires?

 

Oh and by the way, even is she likes women, doesn't mean she will like YOU, because...you DO realise that not all bisexual women are into each other right?  I mean, it goes without saying surely?

 

 

 

Lili
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I want to comment here because I think Isabella hit the nail on the head in respect to an attitude that is rampant among seeking couples, and I think it is harming the prospects of these couples.

So many people will tell a single woman that *she* must be the one making changes because they are established. They have a home, a way of doing things, and sometimes a family. It goes beyond relocation. It is a prevailing attitude that the couple is the important party in creating a plural family.

That doesn't mean you should change just to please a woman either. There are a number of reasons why you would want to remain set in your ways. It is just about cutting down on the "you *must* do this to be with us" and understanding that both parties are here to create a family. Compromise must happen on both sides.

Off my soap box! :p Hopefully y'all can find someone who is a fit.

Isabella
Well said

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Too much,  you MUST fit into the mold we have created, thing going on here.

Imlooking41more
oh my

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I can defiantly agree with you, that I don't want someone who isn't over an ex, but I do have a question. Please forgive me here, because I may not be up on the latest meaning of the word "bitchy," but wouldn't a "bitchy" person be the type that drama, follows like a little black rain cloud? Also, the women that I work with that discribe themselves as, bitches, also brag about not caring about anything. I'm just afraid that the type of person you are looking for is on a strong medication for a bi-polar condition. I hope you think this through again, for everyone involved. The woman you are looking for just might be the main ingredient in drama casserole. Of course, I do know a few people at work who call each other all kinds of obscenities, but are the best of friends, still their lives seem to be filled with more drama than anything else. 

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Pluto8
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We also

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Have a list of "musts". This is because we have succeeded in life and love and we are not going to screw our blissful life up by taking in a discordant girl. We would rather remain a happy monogamous couple, if the other option is discord and incompatibility. Polygyny COULD be nice, but could also be disaster

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

mrmrsr
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lol

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Had no Idea there are so many responses. All understandable. But yes like Pluto, we do not want to bring in any drama. And it does seem like there is a lot of drama to be brought in. We are happy to be monogamous, but we'd love a nice lady or more to share it with. And I totally get they might not be attracted to me, my husband is always finding nice ladies that are interested but totally not my type. I have a very specific type, as most people do. I am not going to waste anyone's time if they are not my type, and I always appreciate it when they do as well. I am interested in a strong willed lady because I am strong willed. I am not mentally defective though lol. We are not looking for religious match, just someone who is caring and enjoys similar activities. Yes activity level does count, I am not looking for someone to stay home and take care of my house while we work and go to gym. The 'mold' we have created here is a stable home filled with love, if someone does not need or want that 'mold', then so be it. Some people want the gypsy lifestyle, not us. 

Thanks for the responses! They definitely help me understand all of your point of views!

Pluto8
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Revisiting this issue

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Just a quick comment... beware taking advice from single people about relationship "mechanics". Would you listen to a fisherman who never gets a fish, about how to catch fish?

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight