New to the Dallas /ft worth TX area

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Justforme
New to the Dallas /ft worth TX area

Hi!

I'm a 25 year old woman who just recently moved to the area from California. I broke up with my boyfriend due to our different ideas of polymory. I was looking for the family aspect and he was looking for the sex activities.

That doesn't stop me from still looking for my future family. I'm not currently actively seeking a family or dating situation, more looking for friends with the same ideas. Families or individuals would be a good start to get myself moving again.

Hope to find some good discussions here.

Thanks,
Erin

TxPartners
Would

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Erin hi ya! Would love to chat! We are a couple late 40s that is looking for a 2nd wife. Would love to chat with you sometime and see if we hit it off. We are in Temple Tx. About 2 hours away ":)

Justforme
Still learning the area

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I'm still trying to find my way around! I have no idea where anything is from here. Totally was going to go to Houston for an event then found out how far it was. I was shocked!

noblequest
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Welcome to Texas

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We are a family in the Dallas area who are always happy to make friends and network with others in the area with the hopes of putting together a group of likeminded families as a bit of a support network or just plain old friends kind of a thing. Anyway, we are not looking for ladies, just friends so no pressure in that respect. Drop Lili or I a line on the site if you like.

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH

Justforme
Thanks

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Thanks it's nice to know some families are making it work. How long have you all been getting along? What made you all look towards plural marriage?

noblequest
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Well lets see...

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I suppose that my senior wife and I were initially exposed to the notion via the writings of Robert Heinlein in each of our respective youths. The notion of non monogamous relationships/marriage that is... Anyway, the unfortunate thing is that while lots of people call him the father of modern polyamory, we were not so much into that whole loosey goosy running around and playing the hokey pokey with anyone that wishes to start the music as it were. Plus frankly I am not the guy to ever have another male in the equation. Ever. I am more the bull gorilla protecting his troop/family kind so that whole swingers and swapping of partners etc etc not only never appealed to us but it is down right off putting. I tried to give them a chance once actually thinking that perhaps we much have something in common and might be able to network and develop friendships and the like. I went in to this local meet up group with the very bluntly expressed limits that I was not looking for hookups or a side chick or whatever the current parlance happens to be. You might now think well of course if a new guy joins a group and states his boundaries openly that they would be respected and that he would not be uhm.... on the receiving end for attempts at recruitment I guess is a nice way to put it. Noooope. It was like being a drunk blond at the end of the night when the bar closes and all of the jackals were circling. Yuck yuck and did I mention yuck?

Ok, so back on track. My senior wife and I (call her Cali) talked it over and over and oooh boy over. Not an immediate kind of decision and a lot of analysis went into the process as we come to this from a secular point of view rather than having some religious and or familial background for polygamy. We thought a lot about the benefits and the potential problems and came to the conclusion that it was the right route for us.

So now we start dating....I guess dating is the word I will use for lack of a better one...single women and trying to find the one(s) that are a good match. It took quite a while and there were some bloody miserable mistakes and false starts along the way. One in particular still gives me the willies I will admit. In time however we met ladies that were looking for what we had in mind and who were good matches for us.

You will have to understand that this has really been a long term thing and I am having to speak in pretty broad generalities as there is so very much that is and has been involved with the building of this particular clan of weirdos. Still work to do as all families are to my mind always works in progress. I can tell you though that is a good choice in the long run if you have the right people. You always are guaranteed to be welcome. You always have best friends and or sisters there to listen and support. You really should have a man that will not stray if he is the sort to make this work properly. You have a family with the potential to provide so much more than simple monogamy can every approach.

I can stand on my soapbox and proselytize on the wonderful things about polygamy all day long but in the end to my mind it really comes down to the same thing that the mono folks should think of before they get married. Do you love these people? Can you spend your life with them? Can you devote your life to building this family?

 

Personally I am happy that I chose this route.

I hope that I answered a least a little of your question.

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH

Justforme
Cool

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Yeas @noblequest that's cool. Glad it's working out and you found your other 2 wives. How many do you plan to have? Does it fluctuate? If not how did you decide to stop at 3? Do you have kids.

So many on this site seem to be looking for wives but not many are really doing it.

noblequest
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I think there are more here...

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Than one might realize. I suspect they are just either less verbose than I or likely just more intelligent about maintaining the masquerade by just reading on the site and keeping their mouths shut. So for all that we know there could be several families on here who are living the plural marriage life than we see with a casual glance.

You also have to keep in mind that the site has undergone some pretty big upgrades in the fairly recent past and unfortunately not all of the posts from folks who are also practicing the plural lifestyle necessarily came over with the transition, plus people tend to have periods of activity. Some are very talkative constantly, others like me will go on a kick of being here on a daily or nearly daily basis for a couple of months and then will get busy with life and not be around for a while. I personally took a hiatus from the site for a couple of years because I was busy buying, running and then selling a business that took all of my time. When I came back I was lucky enough to meet someone within days and am now happy to report that she kicked me out the door this morning by putting my helmet in my hand as I went out for a ride and sent me off with a kiss and a warm smile. So long story short is that you have been here five minutes... hang out a bit and I think that there are more practicing than you will note at a casual glance.

As to the number, it is not that I personally ever had a number in mind. I don't really. What I am more focused on is the individuals involved. It is about building a family and to use a lame analogy here, you can not build a solid base for any structure with shoddy materials. It will never last. So I figure that it is best to not try to say 'here is my goal and this is what I will achieve, nothing more and nothing less'. That tends to limit one a bit to my way of thinking. So the focus is more on making sure the right people are involved. If I had started off thinking I would only have a second wife or that I would not stop till I had seven then each strikes me as equally silly and doomed to disappointment.

As for kids we are getting ready to peek around that corner just about any time now. We are trying to knock out a couple little issues real quick so that we can transition to a larger house. We are ready to make those steps quite soon that will I expect result in a proverbial baby boom. I am eager but scared spitless all at once.

So what brought you to the concept initially? I know that you and your ex disagreed on the sort of poly you wished to practice and I applaud you for your choice in that respect by the way. What made you get in the mindset however?

 

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH

Justforme
What got my interest

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Well not any one thing sparked my interest. I've seen the HBO show and even before that I just wanted a best friend around. Someone who I can always do stuff with, and who has the same plans as me. I am not sure I'd I would want more then a second wife with me. To many females together and they tend to get bitchy and snippy. Just depends how well we get along. I'm a go with the flow person and like to see how things play out.

I just don't want multiple partners. I don't want to be open to any std or the like. Plus I'm not into all they different sex. Just not my thing.

VASJ307
Interested

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I’m new to this way of life and I’m currently looking for anyone who has expirience in it to fill me in. My name is Vic btw and happy to be here.

Victor Sanchez

Texascouple
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Hello

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We are a couple from the McKinney area in Texas and would love to make some friends as well! I must admit it’s kind of interesting to realize that there are so many of us on here from Texas and a lot of us from the Dallas-Fort Worth area

We are looking for that special woman to fill our heart and home

noblequest
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Mckinney

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Do you know Hutchins yet? If not then you should check the joint out.

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH

Texascouple
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McKinney

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no I don’t know anything about Hutchins please explain

We are looking for that special woman to fill our heart and home

noblequest
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Best BBQ around the area by a wide margin

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hutchinsbbq.com

It is over east of 75 just a whisker off of 380 in the old town area. If you were to try it on the weekend make sure to leave time to wait in line 30 minutes or so just to get in the door. That sounds like a real pain but it is really worth it.

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH

Pluto8
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MMMMM

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Beef ribs. We do them at home with Stubbs Texas style BBQ sauce, after soaking the ribs for hours in cheap beer

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

TXfamily_man
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Someone said BBQ???

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Hutchins is amazing. Ate there all the time when I worked in McKinney. But you better get there before they run out. I also like Mike Anderson’s near downtown Dallas but they close at 3pm so right before the lunch rush is the best time to go. I was spoiled with Austin bbq when we lived there but no one needs an excuse to eat this concoction sent from heaven.  Just my two cents. 

May the blessings of Heaven rest upon us

Texascouple
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BBQ

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Sorry guys I didn’t realize you were talking about a restaurant yes I’ve been in Hutchins barbecue as well as quite a few of the other restaurants up here in McKinney Alan Plano and Frisco

We are looking for that special woman to fill our heart and home