Thinking about a future arranged marriage for my daughter

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Thinking about a future arranged marriage for my daughter

Hi, I have a 3-year-old daughter, and a friend of mine has a 13-year-old son whom he's worried might not be able to find a good woman later on. The reason is that young women these days are so often pushed in the direction of having a lot of random sex rather than settling down into marriage when they're young, plus young men are expected to have good "game" to be able to attract young women these days, and his son isn't all that interested in learning game.

Anyway, we talked about the possibility of setting the two of them up with an arranged marriage, say, 15 years from now. So maybe my daughter would be his son's junior wife at that point, assuming he is in fact able to find a first wife.

I'm just wondering, if one has the luxury of planning that far ahead of time (before his son even has his first wife), what goes into coming up with an arrangement with good prospects of success? (I think their family is nonreligious, and it wouldn't surprise me if my daughter ends up being that way too.) Thanks.

Apostle
Arranged marriage of a 3 year old to a 13 year old?

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That sounds bazaar to me. Am I the only one that is shocked beyond belief?

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi

Pluto8
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False "apostle"

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Yes, perhaps you are the only offended interloper, but I suspect many other nasty little busybodies like you will drop in to join you. What business is it of yours what a man decides for the marriage of HIS daughter, especially when she turns 18? You are what is wrong in Western society. Stick your face directly back into your own business and stop interfering in other people's lives

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Apostle
I don't have a problem with arraigned marriage

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Unless it is a 3 year old to a 13 year old.I know an Aryan pedophile like you has no problem with child brides. You sure go out of your way seeking my attention. Let me make myself clear I am not interested in a gay relationship of any kind. You seem to feel the need to hijack every single post. You are a hateful little man. No wonder you can't find a second wife. They take one look at your hate filled rants and run off. Since you didn't place a call on my life you don't get to decide if there is anything false in my life or anyone else's life. You poor twisted servant of Satan you stay away from 3 year olds.

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi

Flutterbug
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So I Have NOT Read Anywhere that this Original Posters Post was ONLY Directed at you Pluto8 ! Wow , I Gotta Just Enjoy Your Warm and Fuzzy Posts ! Actually You Truly Should Open your Own Forum ! :-)
So that Lost Souls can Go there and Learn of your Self Righteous Pompous As.. truly Believe You and You Only Stand Side by Side With God himself !
What is the Point of this site Pulto8 If EVERY SINGLE POST Is ONLY Directed At YOU ? You Truly Should Start your Own site then you can Make sure that --Only People YOU Decide-- That Has the Right to "Speak " Can and Those of Us you Have Decided ( Not God) YOU Decide to Block after your Done your lil ole best to Make look like an Idiot then you can Block ? So then you can Make sure you are with ONLY People that eventually you will figure out are 100% Worthy of Your Personal Ruler Ship .
Any way Just Thinking of you ! :-)
And Ways that can help you know the same Warm and Fuzzy feel, you make a point for anyone who does not Agree with YOU --- Gets to Feel your Consistent Thoughts and Love And Attention you Give .
I may not like your Behaviour on here just know I LOVE YOU and Think of you Often !
Oh And I Know you are Yet thinking of Me on a Very Personal level ; )
Your Someone I Can Count on to Respond ; ) No matter what ! :-) Thanks For being there Thru it All !
Although I will Not Ever Argue about Religion or Other's Faith EVER ! Or Scriptures. As I know this Is NOT The Intention of this Site nor any where in The OP's Questions to Anyone Who Wants to Respond Period !
Love you Pluto8 Keep me in your Dreams.

Frannie
Arranged marriage,

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I do not post often, but this time I have too. Frankly you wanting to arrange your 3 yr old daughter to a 13 yr old boy is just bizzare. What  happens when your daughter & this boy, decides they do not love each other,I mean geez, by the time he is 23 he might already be in love & married to someone, also what happens if while the two of  them are growing up, decide they can not stand each other. Would you & the boys father still force them to marry? They both have the right to be able to fall in love with whoever they want, its not up to you or his father to arrange thier marriage, this is not  the old days where there  were arranged marriages.

Let the two of them, when they are older decide what they want in thier own lives.Also its more than likely they will not want to be in a poly marriage IF he is already married, not to mention, IF he is married his wife will more than likely not want a poly marriage, since most women do not.Let your daughter live her OWN life when she is an adult.

Here to talk to friends. I am pro-poly, but am not seeking.

Rock
arranged

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You can leave the drama out of this. The marriage would occur between an 18 yr old woman and a 28 yr old man. . As adults, they will make up their own minds when the time comes.

 

polypaul
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The funny thing

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The funny thing is most of us are here because of arranged marriage, someone in our family tree was arranged. That is a fact. 

Searching for a second wife............are you interested ?

Flutterbug
Pauly Paul

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I decided to go ahead and Suggest something To You... Obviously take it or leave it.
If you are TRULY trying to Change the OP's Topic around and you Only want to Talk about Family History then Start your Own Original Post . Who knows other's maybe wanting to only talk about that ?
This Person is Trying to Figure out How and IF he Wants to do this With his 3 yr old and a 13 Yr old Boy . There are Many people in this world that can go Extreme !
In the Name of Loving and Trying to protect there Children. It Appears at least that this Man the OP. Is Researching This possibility THANKFULLY It Appears he has not Decided yet. And is Trying to Figure it out for him self. And The Op at this Point Says even that He is Unsure about this Other Families Ways of Faith and Respect and Love. I am for one So Glad he is Searching and Not just jumping in to this For his Lil one. No matter What Peoples Family History's Are full of . It is Traditionally not Practice any more . As to "Show" How well all that worked out for Peoples Family History's . Jesus Christ , God our Eternal Father. Gave each and every individual Person in this World the Freedom of Choice ( I am not saying that The Choices are that Great at times ) But I have No Dought that there may be alot of people here that would enjoy A Post about Family History .
Anyway Just thought it may make a Good Original post on here somewhere.

Flutterbug
Frannie

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I couldn't agree more ! Very Well Said to the OP!
( ANYONE OTHER then the OP And Frannie) Do NOT Even bother Responding Directly to or AT me period. I Also Have Every right to post and to Agree with anyone I Choose . As My Post is ONLY For Frannie and the OP. And I will NOT Deviate from that ! As I am NOT A Deceitful Person.

Isabella
What can I say?

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1) OP -  Kind of gross and bizarre.  Please don't.  Just, don't.

2) #AryanPedophile   -  Best label EVER!!!!!   I almost choked on my coffee.  Thanks for the LOLZ Apostle.

3) OP - Just...don't.  Please. 

Flutterbug
To the Original Poster

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I have a few Q. For you.
First I noticed that you are not even sure about the Boys Family Faith .
Although I am Praying that you nor the Boy's Family ever do an Arranged Marriage.
Do you think you should Know EVERY Single thing about them ?
Before Thinking of Some day handing your Lovely Daughter TO any one ?
If you really think about this , Truly Then Don't you think that Either your Daughter your Baby AND Or The Very Young 13 Yrs old boy will of course Change thru out there To young Lives Esp going thru teen yrs ??
And possibly there 20's .
Of course they will.
Are you the Same person you were at 3 Yrs old ? Or even are you the Same as when you were 13 Yrs old ? Of course Not !
How far are you going to take this is the Young Boy's Dad and Family ?
I have Personally Had Friends in my Life ( Not on line ) That were in Different But Situations but still they were in arranged marriages from birth.
One Fell in Absolute love with Someone else who was also supposed to be in a arranged marriage . The Yound lady's Dad Had Her Oldest Brother Kill her ! For Shaming his Family . Soo Sad .. They were Both so full of Life with Dreams and Hope for the Future believing that there Families would LOVE and Respect them No matter what . He Was a Very Good Man as she was an Amazing young lady.
Another Young Lady That was in an Arranged Marriage ( Now So you know this Had 0 To do with the People that they Were "Supposed to Wed" so it was Just as Devastating for them as well ! So the Young lady I was Starting to Share about She Commented Suicide.. To get out of the Arrangement as she decided after her teen yrs she would rather do that then Shame either Family or Disappoint her Dad. Whom she Loved as well.
If you would like for them to some day Wed.
Then Please do not do it this Way. Or you Men very well may not have your Kid's Alive and Healthy as Long as you Believe. And then whom ever you choose to call God He Already knows What you are thinking and Feeling So , PRAY , PRAY , PRAY . PLEASE !
There is No Rush ! That is the Great News there is Time now. At some point you will have run out of time and may not be able to Stop and Reverse this as these 2 Very Young Children will already Be Taught this to there Core ! AND Nobody will be able to change the out come.. If this Does Accrue then I pray to God that They can make an Escape . And nobody will ever know if there okay.
To consider this is bad enough . But With such Limited Knowledge that Is Shown it is Already A Tragedy...
How did you find your Spouce or Spouses ?
Can you imagine that Freedom Never Being an Option for you ?
Or you Wife / Wives if they were only with you do to some arrangement that your Dad decided on When you were Way To young to make a Full Knowledgeable Choice ?
Or your other Wife/Wives how honestly would that make you all truly feel ? Knowing y that you all are only Together because of a Dictation "Arrangement " ?
This is Extremely Serious Stuff your Thinking of doing .
I would Hope that What you say is true you want the Best for your Daughter in HER life and I hope the same for the Young Boy with his Dad as well.
If you Truly Want the Best Outcome for these 2 Children. Then Teach your Daughter with a Softness from your Heart and Always give her Options in any thing she does in life just do your best that her Options even as a Baby are Good Wholesome Options .
Start a Collage Fund for her Now there are So many Amazing things to teach these kids let them Decide on Who they will spend there life with and Make Sure she knows you Love her No matter what she is Counting on you to always love her for her !'

Pluto8
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Isabella the spinster

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I'm quite sure you got a chuckle out of our resident trolls false accusations. So, in the spirit of that post, how long have you been sleeping with your brother? 

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Flutterbug
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Aryon pedi ,
Who had made any "Accusations " oh thats Right you Consistently On this Site Do That Very Thing ! Stop Projecting On to Other's and When you ever have anything to Add to the Post Then you should Open your Own Ears to What Others Truly do know about or Questions others Have Every right to Respond to.
As I have Read And Know is that You have Done this For Years and Years and Years and before that You Were Ban off of Here ! What ever would Make you think That they would even Want you back here in the First place ? Do you not Get it , They did NOT just Hint to you they Did not want to Tolerate you any more They Acted on it after A Very Long time !
So why come back pretending to be someone else ? Get a life

Isabella
Someone is desperate for female attention....

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*snort*

 

NFM.

Flutterbug
Rofl

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Pulto8 ,
Here I am The Female you Truly do Love to get attention from ! Well that Wouldn't Really be ME Haha you want a Female Virgin Prob. A 17 Yr old .Lol
You can Keep on looking Honey haha Any that may have Read any of your Simple Minded Posts any where on here . If one happened to be reading ( 17 Yr old Virgin's Does not make them This Stupid ) will So Just Laugh at you for such Ignorance . AND your Complete Ridicules of Any Female or Male on here ! HAHA . You know what Having A Hermaphrodite Feels like Right After you Slept with Them Obviously! thats the Closest You will get to having a Child Bride esp. At your Age . OLD Pedophile "Man"
I Am Taking Your Post the way you do beings you Are Attacking another Female on here so I am Responding as you had Said this To me. ( A Major Problem With You is you Seem to forget is You Need Females to even be your Wife period and yet you Hate Any ! Lol also you need Reminded alot that Although you Say your Not interested in Female's unless there Virgins Who in the Heck will be Teaching there Daughters ? Consider , the Fact is Girls Grow up More often than Not Looking to there Mom's or The Female Roll Model in there lives to Find out The Best way to live there own Lives and Talk more openly About Sex , Love , Marriage with More Detailed . Really The Dad hopefully will be there For there Daughters as well . Just like Typically a Boy will look to his Dad in this way to !
So Do you Really believe Any Parents would Even Remotely Consider YOU to Be Close to "Having " there Virgin Daughters Be any where near you ? In Any Culture or Faith ?Who do you Think you Are to be Granted with these Female's and Not Someone Better ? AW NOO ( by the way that is a Rhetorical question Look it up of you do not Comprehend )
As for my Brother , He is Doing Lovely ! A matter of Fact He is a Bishop and Has A Nice large Family ! And He wouldn't waste his Time and Energy on you the Way I do .
Simple Simple Aryon Nation oh wait I mean Pulto8 lol Its So Hard to know if you will Publicly Denounce Your Real Faith on here or continue to Stay Silent on this One Fact you sure have NOT Denied it !
Yet you would much rather stay silent about it then Back up your "Brothers"
Also beings you Brought up my Family( Re-read my Above post I am Taking your Comment about Someone else's Brother to Me Personally ) Where is your Supposed One Wife you Claim you have ?
Is she all tied up in one of your "Castle" rooms or In Reality one of your Glorious 1970 's Trailer out in the Middle of Nowhere Land ? Most of the things I have said are in your own Profile you wrote , Except for your Aryon Nation info. Were your "Brothers" you leave in a Proverbial Ditch how do you think they would Like it for you to not be "Proud Aryon Scum"
Any way Sending you Lots Gratitude as you have Shown Repeatedly your True Colors ( Oh Wait you cannot Mix up your Color Crayons Lol Or they are not "Pure"
Any more .
Darn Soo many "Other Men's " Rules you have to go by.
So How is that working out for you ?
Just keep me In Your thoughts ! I know you do ! :-)
It makes a Lady feel so warm and Fuzzy knowing you'll be here for me Daily ! Esp. A Old "Man" that is Aryon that is Soo lost and Needs Me and Any other Female / Male / Dog / Hermaphrodite
Just know I have your "Back"
In Sight always

Apostle
I doubt Pluto

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Would accept a 17 year old. That's a bit too old for him. By at least 4 years. I guess we should look at the bright side He is kind of the comic relief on here.

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi

Flutterbug
Lol

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Apostle , So So True ! lol We All Know that Aryon Would Love to have an Arranged Marriage with a 3 yr old or 13 yr old ! aww the warm and Fuzzy feelings i had to pluto8 are Quickly GONE Down the Drain ! Comic Relief that he is ! Rolf !

Flutterbug
Aryon Pedophile

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I just re-read your Original "Answer" Directed at Apostle , What is Very Comical about your First post on here , Is the OP did NOT ask you personally period !
Now I Know That Had NOT crossed your Little Mind that These Main Posts are Not For you only ( A bit Narcissist are you lol Very Very Obvious )
The ONLY thing you enjoy in your Tiny Minded Lil ole Head of yours
Is to Make sure how ever you can to Get other's ( I almost fell for it Lol) Away from Commenting Seriously to the OP and What they may ask or Say. Lol ,( I mean really Aryon Pedophile With a Blow up doll for your Wife. )
Its Obvious from YOUR childish Posts every where on this Site You have No Back bone to Even Beable to Handle Anyone not even your Sad pitiful Person . So hear is a Good Idea for you
Do NOT Post on things You Know Nothing about at all
No one Ever Wants to Read anything from someone that Believe s they are Trying to Distract from the Actual post !
You sure wear you True Colors ! AND Trust me You Are NOT OF A Pure race ! And thank God Almighty that you have No Children . Even if you pretend to Do you Truly Believe they Would Admit it When they Read All your Posts on Here ?
Lol NO and I can Already Visualize The Big Eye Rolls they Would give you ! While they Talk privately tohether about You Have Never Been the Sharpest Tool in the Shed . So how about You ( Like your First post on here Said ) Being the True Troll on here ! It is Extremely Obvious that Most Would rather Not be Reading your Gibberish . Or Just Scroll on past your Non Response to the OP like Always .
You Personally were Not Mentioned in the OP 's Post at All so Why Bother ? While We Just Pat you around like an Annoying Little Mouse .with a Little boy Tantrum .
So go suck on your Candy Cane And Visit with your Dolly
Ya'Wierdo

Apostle
Isabella and flutterbug

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You 2 are awesome. Happy to see you stand up to the Aryan pedo.

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi