Love Not Force

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Love Not Force

This site is perhaps one of the most influential in our journey to the truth.

We need to be leaders not tyrants!


If it is forced then it is not love to begin with. When we force our spouses to do things that they are opposed to, then we prove that we have a shallow love, or a non existent love, for them.

When we choose force not love, it will harm not help our relationships. When we choose force over love everyone loses!

I'm married to "Imthefirst1."

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Psalm 119:165 Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.

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Monty Roberts' latest book, which is on leadership, may be relevant here. This gifted and humble man is the original "horse whisperer". I have read his earlier book, Horse Sense for People, and look forward to reading this one:

Horse Sense for Leaders: Building Trust-Based Relationships Inspired by the Work of Horse Whisperer and New York Times Best Selling Author Monty Roberts



I included the wrong Amazon link. Sorry! Here is the US one:

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I have always said...


To those who ask me (generally adult males...could be men but who knows) how they should go about attracting additional woman to the relationship with the goal of creating a plural marriage that they should start by deserving and earning the womans trust. You must be a strong and honorable man before you deserve any womans hand in my opinion. Should you desire more woman then to my mind you must by extension be that much better of a man.

I can tell you from personal experience that I was decidedly not who I am in the past. It was a conscious decision to change and I feel that I fall very short of the ideal that I have for myself but then I feel that is part of the process. One should never be done with the process of self improvement.

If a man must force it then it is not meant to be and he is no man.

Morality is your agreement with yourself to abide by your own rules - RAH