Here is an interesting revelation we had along the path to the truth of polygyny, concerning the marriage "contract" itself. Today there is a lot of talk about "sex before marriage" or "abstinence". But in reality a closer inspection of the scriptures , especially in light of biblical polygyny, shows that the question of "sex before marriage" is in itself the wrong question. Biblically speaking, there is no "marriage ceremony" that defines the point of marriage. The very notion of marriage beginning at the point of a ceremony is a fairly modern, probably roman based, notion. It puts the state in charge of marriage and the definition of marriage. Instead, the bible stories portray a very different picture of the beginning of marriage being at the point of sexual relations between man and woman. There are two examples of marriage beginnings (assuming a single woman): 1. Man and woman agree to be married, and then go off and consummate that through sexual relations. it takes both steps 2. man forces sex on woman and then is obligated to publicly marry her. again, it takes both steps What this seems to be saying is that there are two components to a valid biblical marriage, a commitment from both people and sexual relations. At that point God sees the couple as married for life. If there is sex "before marriage" it is only a matter of timing, because sex is expected to be followed by a marriage commitment for life. In other words.. it is the physical relations that create the "oneness" and require a commitment of marriage to follow. So instead of debating whether sex before marriage is allowed or not, the point of scripture is that the point of sex IS a marriage. The formalities can follow later. This has huge implications for men. Every never married woman a man has physical relations with, is effectively his wife for life. (hence the need to allow polygyny). If a married man has relations with a never married woman, she should, by God's law, become his wife. How very different the message is to young men that "the price of each act of sex is a life long commitment of marriage". Its also fascinating that.. if a man has physical relations with a never married woman, that in itself is NOT sin. It only becomes sinful if he does not commit to her her before or after. I would also offer that... changing this whole story to "sex before marriage is wrong" fundamentally changes the message and breaks God's design for marriage itself. (sex BEING an act of marriage) I am constantly fascinated by the "rules" that the church has accepted , and no one commonly questions, that are directly contrary to scripture. The mandate against polygamy was only the beginning... the reality seems to be the the church as a whole has corrupted God's very definition of marriage and family. Thoughts?
Tue, 07/22/2014 - 17:21#1
Biblical Point of marriage