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MasterDenver
Different minds

I still find it amazing the ways the men and women think. One question i always ask a woman is "What are your lines in the sand?" And every time they always ask me what do i mean. how is it possible women do not understand that question. Or if you ask what they are loking for you get honesty...blah blah. and if you ask is there anything deeper again what do you mean. 

Sometimes I feel i just need to say its my way or the highway. That i want a total submissive and i have total control. But where would i find such a lucky girls? i just would like to find a woman who knew what she wanted and could carry a good conversation and express herself in a meaningful way. 

 

Pluto8
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American Woman

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Has been brainwashed to believe a series of lies, such as "equality" (including the absurd concept of equality of outcome) and that they are all "princesses". This combined with the farce of so-called "public education" has created several generations (men included) of real dumb clucks, with no higher aspirations, no creativity, no drive to better themselves and certainly no traditional gender roles (yes, Virginia there are only two genders) If you want to find what is left of traditional women you'll need to move to Russia or the Ukraine. Don't try importing one, all you'll get are the gold diggers

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Rock
Fear

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Fear forces 'most' women to remain on a shallow and meaningless level.

The cut to the quick question and explanation is this:

What is fear?

Fear is a feeling that arises when a person thinks that the future will not be how they WANT it to be. Fear is future based.

Simply put, fear is what is felt when you think you won't get what you want. A negative possible outcome is feared.

Hence, fear begets distortions, lies, and the avoidance and refusal to honestly communicate.

'I won't get what I want if I tell the truth'. That 'something' could be acceptance, 'love', control, security, or something tangible.

'If I tell the truth, he will not want me'

But why? why not just tell the truth?

Because of the secondary problem and that is selfishness. A selfish woman cannot let anyone know how selfish she is because she is completely aware that no one will like her if she lets out that 'secret'.

Then there is guilt. Guilt plays into this in a major way because if a person owns up to lying, two UNDESIRED outcomes can occur. The first is feeling humiliated. Humility is the enemy of most women. The second is the fear of rejection after the truth is revealed.

Desire is the root of fear. Fear creates drama. Drama creates pain. Pain,on a low level, is just to live in misery as is the state of 90% of all relationships today.

Can this be overcome? In my estimation, only through extreme pain. ...which is why God is letting the world collapse. When abject terror of starvation, violence, and destruction hits, humility is FORCED. For both men and women. Extreme Pain is like smelling salts to people. a Wake up to REALITY.

the future will be interesting.

Flutterbug
Denver

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Deleted by myself !
NOT wasting my time

MasterDenver
Flutterbug

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Ty for the response but like u said we dont know each other. But u put it out there that you wanted a poly life and your husband was looking into i believe. I told you to make sure u are honest about everything. Not bc i thought u were lying but bc of the simple fact it is a must in all aspects of life. I personally feel that any person who enters into a committed relationship with more than one other person the truth conversation and honesty takes on added levels then say a one to ten.
As for your theory of me being an abuser or whatever you dont know me at all. I come from a home where shall we just say neither parent was not very good not only to each other. Among other people who supposedly cared for me.
I am a man who made mistakes in his younger days and so i go out of my way to not only be honest about myself but how i see things.
I just cannot believe that if i ask a woman what are her lines in the sand. That the vast majority like 9 out 10 have been unable to tell me much less have to ask what do i mean.
The idea to me in polygamy is the simple fact you especially as the woman have to be so very strong in mind and will. Simply bc a man and a woman do not think tge same way. Simple science and fact. Bc at some point you will think what is the other spouse doing that i am not that might give them pleasure.
For those that have started out as one man and one woman and then to add either the new husband or wife or couple or whatever may be your pleasure. I know one will ask themselves why am i not good enough now when i have been in the past. Or was i?

So i apologize to you personally if you thought i was insulting you. It was not my intent.

And yes at times i do get angry and i wonder why people canmot be honest and say what they really want or need. And yes sometimes i would love to say i have control do what i want when i want or else. But its not what i want. If i could find a woman who we both felt we had a good foundation and let's see what we can build for that i am good. If it is just us two i am good if the lord felt we needed more i am good. Its all i am asking. Is that so wrong?

Sorry for the rant but i felt things needed saying. Oh if you wander about the handle it is bc i live in Denver Colorado USA and bc i at this point i am trying to take control of my life and do what i feel i am suppose to be doing. Maybe it is a bad play on words or idea. But its there and so it is.

The Accountant

polypaul
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That didnt take long

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Ladies Flutterbug is a perfect example of what not to be!

Searching for a second wife............are you interested ?

Flutterbug
Polypaul

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Deleted by myself .
Not wasting my time

Flutterbug
Denver

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Deleted myself
I am not wasting my time

Pluto8
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Spelling and Grammar

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Are good things  

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Flutterbug
Pluto8

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I deleted my post
Not wasting my time

MasterDenver
flutterbug

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THank you for your response. If I remember right you were seeking information about polygamy and tring to get your husband to see your way of things. As far as I am concern we live in a free country if you want to edit your post thats fine but if you want to keep it as it is fine. it is your words. 

The Accountant

Flutterbug
Denver

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I deleted my self
I have better things to do with my time

Rock
drama

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drama is self-evident notwithstanding the 'explanation' for it.

Flutterbug
Rock.

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Self Deleted

Apostle
A true feminist

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Bash man after man then try to call it female bashing or misogynistic if a man says a woman is to submit to her husband. There is so many woman that are guilty of misandry but that seems acceptable. If a man wants his wife or wives to submit to him then what right do feminist have to condemn him? This site and these forums aren't here for personal bashing or insults.

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi

Flutterbug
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Apostle
I agree

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A woman should only submit to her husband. Most western women hate the word submit or submission. But this forum isn't for you to attack Denver or Rock. This isn't a place of attack for anyone. Only God can bring an end to the anti family and anti man agenda of the radical feminist movement that has destroyed America.

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."
Gandhi

polypaul
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Drama queen

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I think you come off as a drama queen 

Searching for a second wife............are you interested ?

Flutterbug
Hi

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Not wasting my time

Pluto8
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Rock

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You nailed it. What is coming will eliminate all the dross: Isaiah 13:12  ~~  "I will make a man more rare than fine gold; even a man than the golden wedge of Ophir"  ~~  A man weighs maybe 200 lbs, how far in a radius will you have to travel from your current location to discover that much pure gold?

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Rock
Isaiah 13 and drama

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Pluto,

   It's been many years since I read that chapter. That is one sobering scenario. Considering the average person's reaction to that, I would speculate that most cannot begin to conceive of what that day will actually look like. Most would simply choose to ignore the depth of it due to their inner abject fear.

   I'm not sure if I will be counted as one to survive the 'day of the Lord', and if not, so be it. Any man that will survive it will have  a great burden of responsibility that will likely be at the brink of being unbearable.

  Anyone interested in seeing into the future, and desiring motivation to better themselves, might want to read that chapter. I would guess that those words will be made manifest in our lifetime. We are at the edge of war with North Korea. Russia is preparing forces at the doors of the Ukraine as well as backing Iran (ancient persia) which is becoming quite defiant and aggressive in their role in the middle east. China will not stop until it makes it's attempt at world domination. The chess pieces are being moved deftly and with great care on all sides. Both the FED (U.S. Federal Reserve) and ECB (European Central Bank) are so extended as to being on the fine edge of collapse. These are realities that are about to come to bear on our daily lives.

  Resting in God is the only salvation for any man or woman. Excitability, pride, and selfishness shall be destroyed quickly when terror grips the hearts of men (and women).

   Most live for drama. They live in a lie. They deceive themselves and those around them. Soon, they will have all the drama of a magnitude of which they had never dreamed possible.

  Gods will ...will be done, whether we like it...or not. All the tirades, stomping of the feet, pity parties, and complaints will be silenced and made still. People will have no choice in this action. Be still ...or DIE.

 

 

 

Pluto8
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His will

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In all things. Trouble for the vast majority is that they don't want to know what His will is. All they would have to do is repent of their foolish ways, truly humble themselves and read His book. He will teach the sincerely repentant son that returns. The rest are the dross, and one cannot have that in fine gold. Dross gets cast out and is worthless. Note that gold lasts virtually forever..

Psalm 144:1  Blessed be Yahweh my strength, which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight

Rock
thank you

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thanks Flutterbug.

(to your last sentence)